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Myth: I’m too Damaged To Heal

Myth: I’m too Damaged To Heal

The aim in trauma repair is not to become exactly what you once were, but to become something new, and possibly even better. Once released from the embodied traumatic response that maintains undue focus on the past, it becomes possible to explore new and exciting options for a future you may never have imagined. More then the physical and emotional losses sustained in traumatic experience is the loss to your sense of Self-worth. It is this lowered sense of worth that gives rise to the lie that you cannot handle the change… and there is only one acceptable solution for any problem. When your sense of Self is restored to its rightful place on the grand totem pole of all Creation, you feel empowered to accept numerous alternatives. Healing is hard work, indeed, because it requires that you act before you feel like acting. If you will but trust the creative process, there is no life too damaged to...
Myth: More Talking Will Help

Myth: More Talking Will Help

Talking out problems has its roots in the time-honored tradition of storytelling. For centuries, communities gathered to recount victories… erecting monuments, mourning losses, feasting, and re-enacting great battles in full regalia. This tradition is of little resemblance to the process used in therapy today. When it comes to trauma, more talking won’t help. Stories focused on failure and loss, outside of a community context, and inside a commercial office space, can provide temporary relief for some, but is rarely enough to bring about permanent change. More often, just talking actually embeds problems deeper into the psyche, giving them undue power, and creating blind spots. Unless talking is paired with creative action that focuses on options, not losses, traumatic memories will remain fragmented in the perceptual system, where they will be relived again and again. The days of Cognitive Behavior Therapy are giving way to an approach more in keeping with the history of story-telling as a catalyst for healing. Cognitive-Experiential Therapy uses mindfulness and expressive arts processes, in a relational context, to address the lived experience of trauma, prompting changes in distorted thinking and reactive behaviors. CET is evidence-based and targets the areas of the brain and body where traumatic experiences are mediated and stored. It serves to unite the perceptual splits responsible for Flashbacks and Panic Attacks, permitting a process of Self-transformation that has generational impact. More talking has no place when trauma is...
Myth: Recovery Means Reliving

Myth: Recovery Means Reliving

Trauma repair does not require that you relive your experience. The purpose of our recovery programs is to stop reliving your experience! Flashbacks and Panic Attacks are neurobiological processes, and you don’t have to live with them. Art therapy provides a gentle and effective way to change the way your brain and body function after trauma. What took decades to learn can be unlearned in a surprisingly short period of time. There is no need to avoid facing your past. You can live trauma...
iTRANSFORMED

iTRANSFORMED

Mine is a life that was transformed. Can’t say it’s a rags to riches story. I couldn’t bear the cliche. For me, the transformation has been more on the inside where you can’t see it. Though now it’s developed far enough that the transformation is visible on the outside. That’s how change works. It starts with the smallest parts and works its way out to the bigger parts. You see, like most people, I was raised to believe I was crap. Yes, my parents fed and clothed me, and got me to school. I got to enjoy vacations and Christmas holidays with family. From the outside, it must have looked really great. From the inside it was hell. I guess you would say my family was a “normal dysfunctional family.” So why was my experience of life so awful if I was born into what would be privilege for many? When you believe you suck, the world seems all to happy to oblige. That is, if you think you suck, life will suck. I fell into the common trap of believing that the crap I got from the world was the world proving my inferiority. The joke was on me. After all my complaining and suffering– and by suffering I mean panic attacks from the age of 6, social anxiety, physical illnesses, abuse, poverty, chronic pain, broken bones, fears and failure… I’ve stared down the barrel of a loaded gun, hurled through the air at 100 kilometres an hour, and faced a foe twice my size and three times as mean, besides– and still, after all of this suffering,...